Family Constellations

I recently began attending services at Unity of the Palm Beaches Spiritual Center. I had been wanting to visit but didn’t get the opportunity until Memorial Day weekend. I am very happy I was guided to go. The people were genuinely nice and shared the spiritual beliefs that I do. I quickly found a group to hang out with and as we shared our stories, I gave them the opportunity to laugh with me when I shared how I’d long been stuck in the belief that God would punish me if I didn’t behave. They assured me I wasn’t the only one that had suffered from that programming at some point and we were grateful that we had been able to see the light.

Unity often has guest speakers, and we were expecting John Moore from Sarasota. John is a spiritual coach, Family Constellations facilitator, Course in Miracles teacher, writer and speaker. John would be offering a demonstration on the Family Constellations healing he offers after our service. I was intrigued and decided to attend.

Circumstances placed me in a seat next to John in our circle of about 18 or so friends. My proximity to him offered me the opportunity to be the subject of the Family Constellation healing and I gladly accepted. One of the biggest challenges I have encountered in my healing is based around my family history.

The demonstration took a little over 90 minutes. I’ll condense what happened to give you the basic idea of how this powerful exercise changed my perspective, which always changes our life. John asked me to explain a bit about my family history so he could get a sense of what we needed to work on. I explained the struggles with my maternal grandmother and mother’s relationship and how it affected me. I was also asked about my entire family’s dynamic, which gave John guidance on how the healing would progress.

The healing is carried out as a type of role playing exercise, so John asked me to select someone in the group to represent me. I was drawn to a man across from me in our circle, so I asked him if he’d help, and he agreed. John then wrote the role of a family member on a piece of paper, folded it up and handed it to me. Not knowing what the paper said, I was instructed to use my intuition to select someone to play that role. We repeated this action until everyone that had agreed to help was standing around the man playing me. Upon delivery of the last folded paper, I was instructed to replace my role player in the center of the group.

John then asked me how I felt about where everyone was standing. I felt like I wanted them closer, so all stepped closer to me. After I felt better about everyone’s placement, John began to ask each participant how they felt. Some felt resistance, some wanted to be close, others felt okay with where they were. Everyone then readjusted based on how they felt. As we completed this part of the process, John was guided to add one more role player to the party. He wrote that role on the paper and asked me to select another person to participate, so I did.

John then selected one of the role players and asked her how she was feeling. She was very emotional and had been the one feeling the resistance. Based on how she described how she was feeling, I suspected it was my mom, but I was wrong—it was actually my sister. Since my sister is the person I struggle with the most, her role player had been brought forward first. I trusted it was all happening the way it was supposed to happen. John allowed her to express what her intuition guided her to say. She said she was sad and felt a loss. She wasn’t sure why she felt this way, she just did. John then used his intuition to guide me to speak to her and her to speak to me. It was a heartfelt message that said although we weren’t able to have a relationship, we could release each other on a soul level knowing it wasn’t anyone’s fault, that we are living on this Earth doing the best we know how to do. It was very healing.

John then continued the process with each member of my role playing family—asking how we felt, revealing their identity and allowing each of us to speak to the other through John’s intuitive message. It went very well and allowed me to feel a lot of relief, love and healing.

Sometime during the process, John was given intuitive guidance on the root cause of my family’s trauma. My maternal grandmother had suffered a carryover of family trauma from one of her ancestors. That cause her to struggle to understand the burden placed on her, which had been transferred down to my mom and to my siblings and me.

The final person John had added to the exercise held a piece of folded paper that read, “Ancestor of maternal grandmother.” When asked, she felt burdened and heavy, sad and tired. John explained this was the result of her trauma that she inadvertently transferred down the line for generations. John then handed a folded up blanket to me. He then asked me to transfer all of my negative feelings to the blanket. After I was finished, he handed it to the person that played my mom and had her do the same thing. He then handed the blanket to my grandmother, then finally to her ancestor. We all transferred our negative feelings to that blanket. This exercise allowed us to release the feelings that no longer served us, which allowed us to experience healing. John explained that this healing is possible even though some of these people are no longer with us, and I will tell you I could feel a huge difference in my mindset.

I am honored and blessed to have been chosen for this healing experience and grateful to John for facilitating it. If this interests you and you’d like to learn more, I encourage you to visit John’s website at www.johnharoldmoore.com. John is an amazing person with a powerful gift who offers online sessions!

Love and light,

 Kelie 🪷